It Is Never Too Late To Make Your Dreams Come True

Everyone has a dream and in truth it is having a dream that often brings passion and excitement into our lives.  Unfortunately, far too many people stop pursuing their dreams or fail to start following their dreams at all.

Paulo Coelho, the author of The Alchemist, said, “People are capable, at any time in their lives, of doing what they dream of.”

There is truth and a deep wisdom shared in these words.  But – human beings often struggle to believe in themselves. Low self-esteem and a fear of failing stands in the way of finding success and making dreams come true.

I for one know this struggle all too well and I have spent most of my life dreaming of writing a successful self-help book.  However, I have yet to truly do what it takes to pursue my dream and make it come true.

Countless pages of ideas, titles and sticky notes are stacked in my closet.  And – I have started writing “my book” so many times I have lost count.

This isn’t a fleeting dream – in fact – I have loved writing since I was a little girl.  For as long as I can remember, I have written poems on napkins, partial chapters, endless quotes and now, a blog that I pray will somehow make a difference in this world.

Yet – I continue to quit on my dream and most importantly, I continue to quit on me.  It makes me sad, frustrated and quite honestly, I constantly have a hole in my heart filled with regret.

Can you relate?   Do you have a life-long dream that continues to scream in your head and tear at your heart?  Do you have a passion that always finds its way back to you?

If so, I am here to tell you that there is hope. It is time to listen to your heart.  At the end of the day, it is never too late to pursue your dreams.

I have thought long and hard about the why behind the inability to complete my books.  In the end I always seem to come up with plenty of excuses and sadly, my excuses seem to be quite common with so many of the dreamers out there.  Are you one of them?

If you want to get out of your own way it is important to understand the why and to avoid the many potholes we can so easily fall into.

Here are a few of the myths that can steal your dreams:

I am too old.

We live in a society that puts far too much value on youth and unfortunately, people fall prey to believing that most dreams in life belong to the young.  This is simply not true.  Age is just a number and there are amazing success stories that challenge this myth every single day.

Laura Ingalls Wilder published her first book in the Little House series at age 65.  Gladys Burrill ran her first marathon at age 86.  Susan Boyle found success and a singing career at age 47 after her appearance on Britain’s Got Talent.  And – Ann Mary Robertson (fondly known as Grandma Moses) had her paintings shown at the Museum of Modern Arts in New York when she was at the young age of 78.

Don’t let age stand in the way of your dreams.  If you have a dream go for it regardless of how young or old you might be.

I don’t have enough time.

Life is incredibly busy and if you are like me, it is easy to feel like there is never enough time in a day.  However, believing that you don’t have enough time will stand in the way of achieving your dreams.  If you want something bad enough you will find a way to carve out time in your life.  You owe it to yourself and it is when you can commit to a block of time each week that your dreams can become a reality.

J.K. Rowling’s rags to riches story is an incredible example of doing whatever it takes and as a result dedicating the time to make her dream come true. I know writers that get up an hour earlier every morning to dedicate to writing.  It doesn’t matter if it is 15 minutes a day – commit to it and do it.  This is a new challenge and goal for me in 2019.

I’m not good enough.

Low self-esteem and a lack of confidence will sabotage our dreams and lead us to believe that we are not good enough to pursue a dream yet alone achieve it. Keeping that in mind, it is critical that you learn to love all of who you are and to find a way to believe in your ability to succeed.  Remember that you are enough. Everyone has talents and things in life that they are good at and ultimately passionate about.  It is far easier to feel confident when you love something and it excites you.  Find what excites you and go for it.

I’m afraid.

Fear is one of the biggest dream stealers on the planet.  Far too often we get into situations that lead us to feel afraid.  We are afraid to fail and therefore we fail to even try. So instead of letting fear stand in your way allow it to propel you towards your dreams.  Even the most successful people feel fear at times in their lives.  Don’t let fear stop you. It doesn’t matter if you fall but rather that you find the courage to stand back up.  Face your fears.  You deserve to find the magic that comes with making your dreams come true.

While it is important to recognize some of the potholes that can derail any one of us from our dreams it is equally important to realize that you can avoid the potholes and find a pathway to success. There is nothing worse than waking up one day and in the end feeling like it is too late.

Life is short.  You owe it to yourself to make the commitment and consequently to do whatever it takes to pursue any dream that is a part of your heart and your soul.  Dreams are a beautiful thing and making a dream come true can have a profound and beautiful impact on your life.  Be hungry, stretch yourself and get out of your own way.

My dream of writing a book that hopefully can, in part, make a difference in the lives of others  remains in my heart and I know it is up to me to make it happen.  No one will do it for me and likewise, no one will do it for you.  YOU own your dreams – take control, find the time, believe in yourself and face your fears.  You CAN do this.

Always-

Michele

 

 

 

One Response

  • Thank you for this article, Michele. I’ve been feeling down lately about my passion/dream to be a musician. I discovered my passion and talent for music when I was 3 years old, but unfortunately, I didn’t get the support I needed from my parents to pursue my musical dreams. They always believed that a path of music would be the road to perdition and so I had to satisfy my passion by singing in my room when I was alone, stealing tiny moments here and there to play the piano, and holding out till college to join a dance group for the first time. It was always my “underground” pastime. Coming from a working class immigrant family, I grew up believing that dreams were not for us. We were meant for hard work that earned money. So, after leaving home to go to college, even though I was finally free to pursue music, I didn’t let myself. The believe that I needed to earn a living was much stronger and so after a year of singing and dancing, I abandoned my passion. Life went on and I started living in denial of my passion and talents. But, as you well said, my passion always came back to stir things up inside me again, mostly making me feel very depressed without really understanding why (that is how strong my denial was).

    When I turned 30, I honesty believed that my time was over and that I was too old to even think about becoming a musician, so I bid my dream farewell for what I thought would be “for good”, and mourned my loss. It was hard. A year later, I decided to leave my hometown in Southern California and move to New York. But as life would have it, with big changes, everything gets stirred up and the treasures and skeletons rise up again from the deep sea to surprise you. It turns out that upon arriving to NY, music was already waiting for me. The stars began to align and I began to sing and perform around town, almost as if by magic. My secret weapon? I said YES to everything. You see, when I had bid farewell to my dream a couple years back, I decided that since I wasn’t going to become a musician anymore, that if someone would ever ask me to sing, I would do it just for fun, that I would overcome my fear of failure and of being judged and simply sing. When I arrived to NY I shared this story with a musician friend, and he began to challenge me to sing. Of course, I had to say yes. That led to another friend recommending me to a wonderful voice teacher with whom I studied for five years — I’d never taken proper singing lessons before, and eventually, it led to the creation of my first band! By this time, I was already 36. We have played around town and for a time got a great gig at a local restaurant, but alas, things ended with the gig, and I got busier at work (I still work full-time as a director at a nonprofit in NYC), and now with COVID we haven’t really had much going on. Plus, my band has kind of broken apart, and I am struggling to bring it back to life. Given my past, I am now struggling to not feel like a “loser” or a “failure”. I’m also 41 now, and grappling with the push and pull of my biological clock and marriage life, plus an ever more demanding, albeit successful career that allows me to live comfortably, but that has nothing to do with music. So again, I find myself in a place where I feel that I have to choose, and again, I feel that I have to let go of music.

    To fulfill my need for music right now during the pandemic, I began taking guitar lessons, and my goal is to be able to accompany myself singing so that I don’t have to depend too much on other musicians or a band. I have always wanted to write my own songs, and have recently begun to do that. I have three right now, and hope to get two or three more so that I can record my first EP. Every day I struggle with what you’ve laid out above: feeling too old, thinking and believing that I don’t have enough time, that I’m not good enough, that my voice isn’t anything special, and afraid of not being taken seriously or failing. And every day I tell myself that I will do this even if I become a singer/song-writer at 50. Fortunately, I have a wonderful partner who supports and has become my positive inner voice and who believes me. Still, there are those days when the clouds roll in and I can’t help feel defeated or frustrated, which is how I have been feeling over the last two days. So, thank you for writing this article, and for creating a space where I can reflect on my own journey and share it with you. I can do this. I may never be a world renowned composer or a virtuoso pianist, but I can at least share my voice and songs with whomever may want to listen.

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