My Grief Journey
Having experienced several painful and life changing losses in my life, including the death of a best friend in high school, the death of my father from alcoholism, the tragic death of my first husband in a boating accident, multiple other deaths of loved ones, six miscarriages and two difficult divorces, I developed a deep and sincere passion for helping grievers move beyond the pain often experienced following a loss. I also have the desire to work with parents and caregivers who are faced with helping children deal with grief and loss after two of my daughters lost their dad at the ages of 6 and 8.
I became specialized in grief recovery because there are so many people hurting out there and it became clear from my own journey of pain and grief, that most of us are ill equipped to deal with loss. The Grief Recovery Method® helped me to find the courage to take action and complete those relationships in my life that had ended or changed.
Loss changed me and for many years I was lost, stuck and buried under layers of emotional pain. To plug the holes and stop the bleed of my broken heart, I engaged in many behaviors leading to poor choices in an attempt to numb the pain. This only compounded and deepened my grief and to make it worse I struggled with regret, forgiveness, guilt and sometimes shame. I was a mess (although it was often hidden behind a mask) and in and around my own loss had managed to somehow lose myself.
Defeated, overwhelmed and barely surviving, I knew that something needed to change; I had hit my wall. Holding on to a small spark of hope and refusing to give up, I set out on a journey to find myself and heal my broken heart. I am not going to pretend that my journey has been easy, but I am grateful for the valuable wisdom and lessons learned every step of the way. It is so easy to hide behind the pain but I learned that life is still amazing and beautiful, there is wisdom in the wounds and the scars that we must sometimes bear and the life experiences they represent are an important part of who we are. They are a part of my story. It is because of the scars and my life experiences both good and bad that I have become the person I am today.
There IS life after loss and while I will always be a recovering griever, I am finally able to live my life with compassion, clarity, peace and happiness. I believe anyone can change, heal and recover regardless of the past and find their way back to a life filled with peace and joy. The Grief Recovery Method helped me to take action and complete those relationships in my life that had ended or changed; it changed my life and if willing to do the work, it can change yours.
If you are suffering from a broken heart and if you would like to connect and chat, please reach out! I am here to help in any way that I can.